On my insta-story, I took a poll asking what Editor’s Note 002 should be about. I got amazing suggestions, but shortly after I got a message that gave me feedback I couldn’t refuse. It said, “It should be about whatever is on your heart. It's your note to us. We'll be grateful to any kind of advice you're willing to give. Just my opinion.” Once I read that DM, these words began to flow. Not only that, I once again remembered the purpose of this editor’s note–to speak from my heart.
The reoccurring messages in my life as of late have been the following: “Trust the timing of your life,” and “My middle is not your beginning.” I also recently listened to a sermon where T.D Jakes stated - “If I’m going to make success predicated on what my neighbor has, that is only fair if I started with what they started with.” What did I get from these concepts? It’s imperative that we own, trust, embrace and focus on our life paths. We are bombarded with messages that tell us not to compare our lives to others, yet we still end up doing it. We know we all have different paths, yet, that does not stop us from feeling less than when someone reaches a goal before us. It also does not stop us from trying to force success, because other people are making things happen, while it seems we are not.
I wonder what will it take for us to understand that our paths are uniquely written and tailored to us just as our DNA is? There are basic things we can all relate to and work on, yes. But, we all have to experience different situations, trials, lessons and tests to become who we are destined to be as individuals. It’s important that we let go of the need to compare and weigh our lives against one another. Being inspired by someone’s trajectory is perfectly okay, but it should influence you in a way that pushes you to find and cultivate your own greatness. For example, how can you compare yourself to someone who has been working at something for 5 years, when you’ve just begun yesterday? Their middle is in no way measurable to your beginning. Give yourself a break!
I remember a time when I did not trust or understand the aforementioned. I was met with a lot of disappointments. I can think back to times where I wanted something—a job, internship, opportunity, platform…you name it, and it just would not happen. I applied, made the connections and I did everything “right” except for one thing…I failed to assess myself or where I was in my life. I beat myself up, only to realize after some time, that other things needed to take place before I was given said opportunities. Things that I overlooked like skills, living arrangements and even a career change. If you would’ve told me that I’d be working in PR, I’d say you were a liar. But it turns out this was the career change I needed for a bevy of reasons. My job requires heavy multitasking, focus, sharpness and excellent communication skills–all things that have made me prepared to consistently take on my most major life goal. I guess should wrap this up? I need you to start believing that there is purpose to your life, and that every moment–especially the most difficult ones–are adding something to your journey that is necessary.
Maricia Josephs is the Founder and EIC of DREAM IN HD